Homework really works!!!!!!!!
Hi everyone, hope this catches you all in an upbeat and positive way.
Well, i have something interesting to share with you all. As you may be aware from my previous blogs, I am currently partaking in CBT therapy. It is a one to one session, and i am learning so much from it all.
Now I have never been academically minded, and came out of school without much to show for my many years at school. So when my therapist sets me homework, it can be a bit of a challenge.
I have learned a lot of coping strategies through various courses i have done, so when my CBT therapist sets me homework, i try to do my best and do it.
Well, last week she set me some homework, which i took on board and was determined to complete. This did not go according to plan!!
I spent most of the week cursing her, and thinking that she had set me up big time!
So I shall share with you what made me feel this way. She asked me to make a list. A list of evidence of the negative things i thought to myself.
My main thoughts are, I am no good, I am not good enough, and I always make mistakes because im useless.to anyone.
I thought it would be an easy task, but was dumbfounded when i realized, there was no evidence to justify what i was thinking and feeling about myself.
My therapist had set me up!!!! Yes in a very very good way, but what a simple and effective way to make me see things from a different perspective.
So my visit with her yesterday, was very interesting too. She asked me for my homework, with a little smile on her face, i looked at her and said, I was still in the process of doing it, as i could not believe that i could not find any evidence at all. With her smile on her face, she replied, i thought that would be the case.
Now don’t get me wrong, this was not a trick on her part, she is a highly trained therapist, and knows what she is doing, obviously. But something so simple, has blown me away. Yes i am still trying to find evidence, but now I am smiling, because i cannot find any at all. And that’s a good thing!
So when you think about it, all the negativity we aim at ourselves, is totally wrong. Think about it, wheres the evidence!!!